Dear Future Husband,
It may seem silly to write this letter when I may or may not have met you yet. This is a letter to the ideal man. Hopefully you are tall, dark, and handsome just like the movies always told me.
Thank you for loving me despite all of my flaws. At least what I consider my flaws, inside and out. By now, I have two major surgery scars. These are my outside flaws. My arm for precaution and my stomach to save my life. These are not the most attractive things to look at. Sometimes I feel like my surgery arm looks so ugly that I never want to show anyone. You have never minded and even encourage me to be proud of them. My inside flaws are my emotional scars from previous relationships, pain, and mental insecurities. You have always been there to comfort and guide me away from anxious feelings. You were always there with the right thing to say or do to cheer me up after a rough day.
Thank you for making me laugh, feel desired, and communicating your true feelings. Relationships, of any kind, are a two way street. To be successful, you must both communicate what is going on in your life, your heart, and your head. There is more to it than that. There is sexual attraction, romance, and being silly together. You, sir, are the perfect combination of these things. The ability to make a women smile and make her blush, is definitely a positive in a relationship.
Thank you for being an excellent chef and a great adventurer. These probably shouldn't matter but it is what I have always wanted in a man. Make me a great meal and I will clean the dishes every time. Take me somewhere we have never been to explore and just sit by a lake. I will sit in try that hammock even if terrifies me. You make me want to try new things.
Thank you for understanding my stance of different issues. Even if we do not agree on politics, alcohol, or anything else, you never argue or push me to change my mind. The most important of these would be children. I don't necessarily want them and probably can never have them. You have understood that from the beginning and want the same thing. You also always have an open mind and are willing to listen.
Thank you for maintaining a healthy lifestyle with me. Sure, we can eat a pizza on Saturday night and you can order beer. But on the whole picture, you exercise and eat healthy which keeps me doing those things and keeping this little bean going for as long as possible. Thank you for never smoking, what a disgusting habit.
Thank you for holding my hand while walking public, opening doors for me, snuggling on the couch with a movie, and telling me I look beautiful even if I don't feel it.
Most of all thank you for being you. Thank you for loving me and living this life together. I know know what I had been searching for all of those years. You were never bothered by my illness, my scars, or my sick person insecurities. Thank you.
Yours forever,
Robyn