Throughout one's life, a person can struggle with mental health, physical health, finances, school, work, and any number of other issues that can arise. I personally am struggling with health, heartache, and employment. I have also been dealing with a recent breakup that was also a loss of a long time friendship. There are good days and bad, currently the good days are outnumbering the bad. It helps to exercise and distract with television.
For a long time now, I have struggled with figuring out what I want to do with my life. My dream job is unobtainable, in my mind, and I have never really had a major goal in life. For this, I am not a failure. I just do not have a specific direction to follow. This is okay. Not every knows exactly what to do with their life or how to achieve that goal. Throwing ideas in the air is great, but it is not a solid solution.
Another thing that is not a solution and has never helped me: tough love. I do not react well when people tell me what to do or what decisions to make. It is my life. I will take your input and usually respect what you have to say. But in the end I will make my own decisions. It is not okay to berate a person who might be struggling with something you do not understand. If you want to support or help a person in need, ask them how to help.
My brain likes to recount events and conversations to attempt to fix them. This is not possible, of course. What has happened is in the past and there is usually nothing you can do about it. This is especially painful when you have gone through a breakup that was not mutual. I have never been able to turn off my thoughts or only focus on the future. It is also hard to focus on the future when everything is so unclear. I do not know when my transplant will occur. There are millions of questions that come along with the transplant itself and what life will be like afterwards.
When you are feeling lost or in pain, it is best to reach out to others. If you do not, everything will bottle up and explode in ways you cannot predict. There are multiple ways to communicate your pain to other people. These could include therapy, art, talk to family or friends, and you can even attend support group meetings if you are dealing with something specific. There is always someone who understands what you are going through, you just have to find them and reach out.
Your struggle is your own and your's to deal with, but remember someone out there is willing to help you.